Caring for a loved one on a daily basis can be demanding, leaving caregivers with little time to engage in social activities or maintain relationships with friends and family. The caregiving routine and endless tasks consumes each day, leaving little space for anything else.
Caregivers often feel disappointed when their family or friends are unable to offer the necessary emotional support due to a lack of understanding about the challenges of caregiving. As a result, these relationships may become strained and even deteriorate, leaving caregivers to navigate each day without their support.
Often, family and friends genuinely want to maintain the relationship, but hesitate to reach out, fearing they might bother or take up too much of the caregiver’s precious time. These issues are common among caregivers and, if left unaddressed, can lead to more significant problems such as depression and anxiety. Unfortunately, the longer isolation persists, the more challenging it becomes to overcome emphasizing the importance of actively addressing these feelings of isolation.
Maintaining relationships while caregiving can be challenging, yet it is crucial to avoid feelings of isolation.
Here are some suggestions to help overcome isolation while tending to a loved one:
a. Communicate openly with your family and friends: Explain your caregiving responsibilities, and let them know that you may not be as available as before, but you still value their friendship. Be honest about your time constraints, and ask for their understanding and support.
b. Set aside dedicated time for others: Plan in advance and make time for phone calls, lunch dates, or attending social activities. Put these plans on your calendar, and do your best to stick to them. Depending on your situation, you may need to include your loved one which will also maintain their connection with your friends while allowing you to spend time together. Remember that unexpected challenges may arise, requiring flexibility. Communicate this when making plans, and if you have to change them, be honest, apologetic, and express your disappointment about missing time with them.
c. Utilize technology to stay connected: Make an effort to stay in touch with family and friends through text messages or social media. Intentionally make the effort to connect on a regular basis. It might be a good idea for you to add it to your task list as a reminder. Consider scheduling video chats for an extra layer of face-to-face attention. By keeping the lines of communication open, you can maintain your friendships, even if it needs to be from a distance for a period of time.
d. Make connections and build new relationships: Consider joining the Neighbors Who Care Support Group or seek other organizations that offer opportunities to connect with other caregivers who are going through similar experiences. Remember, joining a support group is not a sign of weakness; it’s a way to ensure you’re taking care of yourself, which ultimately benefits both you and the person you’re caring for.
e. Seek support from respite care services: If maintaining relationships feels impossible, take advantage of our Respite Care service or ask trusted family members or friends to assist with caregiving duties occasionally. You may also look for help from non-medical, in-home care companies. This will give you some free time to spend with others without compromising your loved one’s care.
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