Caregivers often find themselves under immense stress as they navigate daily worries, manage caregiving duties, and strive to maintain a semblance of regular life.
Our bodies aren’t designed to continually endure this kind of stress, and eventually, it can manifest unexpectedly in numerous ways. One such way is what is called a “flight or fight” response, also known as the stress response. This response is a natural physiological reaction triggered in caregivers when they encounter stressful situations.
When caregivers experience stress, their bodies release hormones like adrenaline and cortisol, preparing them to either confront the stressor (fight) or escape from it (flight). Most of the time the stressor is in a relationship with either a friend or family member. But it can also be internal stressors which might consist of traumatic memories (i.e. past abuse, war, natural disaster, death of a loved one, etc.). Internal stressors can also be from worrying about what the future will bring.
When caregivers endure intense stress, their whole being stays on high alert, constantly trying to cope with the perceived threats or stressors. This can overwhelm them like a wave of panic, guilt, or sadness.
When this happens, it’s as if their rational thinking is inaccessible, and they struggle to manage their emotions. This might manifest as emotional crying, outbursts of anger, or withdrawing inward. Occasionally, past or present trauma can reappear as powerful emotions like fear, anxiety, anger, sadness, or shame. These feelings can be overpowering and hard to manage.
Unfortunately many caregivers take it out on those closest to them because being upset with or leaving the person they are caring for is not a good outcome.
To manage the “fight or flight” response, practice relaxation techniques such as deep breathing and meditation to calm the nervous system. Regular physical activity, like walking or yoga, helps release tension and boost mood. Setting aside time for self-care and establishing clear boundaries can prevent burnout, while seeking support from counseling or support groups offers emotional relief. Incorporating these strategies into daily routines can significantly improve stress management and overall well-being.
Their life is precious and your presence makes a difference.
In extreme cases, the “flight” response can lead to caregivers seeking to remove themselves from their stressful situation, sometimes contemplating self-harm or suicide as a way to escape overwhelming pressures. It’s crucial to address these thoughts immediately by seeking professional help, reaching out to support networks, and exploring coping strategies.
Removing oneself from the situation is a sign of severe stress and should be met with urgent support and intervention to ensure safety and provide necessary care. Call or text 988 for the suicide hotline.
